By: Michelle Berg


Not long ago, I came across an article from 2016 by Randi Zuckerberg, titled “Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness or Friends: Pick 3″.

I’ve been obsessed ever since for two reasons:

  1. I thought she was full of shit and wanted to prove her wrong. After all, who does she think she is telling me what I can and can’t do?
  2. I started using a spreadsheet to track it…and it turns out, she was right. In fact, I hardly did well at 2 of them.


After doing the spreadsheet for a month, I was shocked at how neglectful I was in certain areas.   And it left me with a really important question…is it possible to have the integrated life I crave?


Even though I personally suck at it, I know the answer is “yes.”  At the end of the day, it’s all about my perspective and taking full ownership of the success I create.


Back in 2014 we started building our Essentials for Leadership offering.   One of the Ted Talks that we use in our curriculum spoke about the idea of work life balance.  The speaker asked the audience to think about a person standing on their head. Truthfully, they aren’t standing still – instead, they are making small shifts back and fourth to maintain balance. Maybe he shifts too much to the right, and then suddenly shifts to the left. To him, he may not feel balanced (he may be feeling wobbly) but to everyone else he looks balanced.  Or vice versa. Maybe the audience feels he’s about to fall, but actually he’s fully in control.


In other words, when it comes to work, sleep, family, fitness or friends and the quest for achieving it all, may just be possible after all.  For me, when I brought consciousness to the process and kept a spreadsheet it helped me to recognize when I needed to shift priorities. With it, I could focus on the areas that matter most so that I can maintain the mental well-being that leads me to success.


My biggest learning? It’s not about work life balance. For me, balance actually doesn’t exist nor do I long for it. But work life consciousness…that’s something I can get behind.


Try it for yourself.  Here’s a copy of my simple 30 Day Challenge spreadsheet I created for myself.  I encourage you to create your own sub headings as required and remember that your definition of “good” is your definition, because after all, it’s your opinion that matters most.  And let me know how it goes – I’m curious to see if you can get to the place you want to be.


Suck it Randi Zuckerberg. We’ve got this.

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